Is your man want to leave you?
“Are you leaving? But I thought everything was ok between us!” – Are you afraid that your partner will tell you these words or, have you ever heard them before? It often turns out in a relationship we stay blissfully ignorant, refusing to notice that something is wrong, and our partner is not happy with the current relationship dynamics. Instead, we put on pink glasses and pretend everything is fine, consciously or not, we try not to think about such things.
It’s only when he starts to hold a grudge or simply just walked away that our eyes open up, we are then surprised. How is that possible? How could he do it?
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Although women initiate divorce more often, men are specialists in sudden break ups, abandonments, leaving wives and partners in shock, disbelief and anger. Yes, it’s not fair, and we do not justify it, he should talk to you when he spoted the problem. Though sometimes he tried, he was giving clear signs, and maybe not in the most clear way he tried to express he does not feel good in the relationship.
Are you looking at him now and wondering if your husband/partner is happily married?
After all, they too have their needs and expectations.
Most of the time we talk about our own needs. We explain what we want and raise the boundaries of our standards. Unfortunately the truth is that to create a successful and healthy relationship, there has to be two happy people in it, not just one of you.
For most men to be happy, they need a few simple things. And it’s not a home-made meal on every daily meal or the warm slippers when he crosses the door.
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So what are men Needs in relationship and are you meeting them?
#He wants to be appreciated and noticed
Research shows that men want to feel appreciated for what they do (or don’t do). What may be surprising, this is the number one factor men evaluate their happiness in marriage or relationships.
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# He doesn't want to feel judged or criticized
For man is important to feel he can trust you, and that’s mean he can tell you everything and you won’t judge or criticize him. This type of self-revealing communication is extremely important as it builds trust and engagement in a relationship.
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# He needs to feel you want him
# He likes being with you
He feels good with you, because he knows that he is important to you and you cultivate common interests. Give him clear signals also outside the bedroom, that you love him – you grab his hand, hug him – and show your interest in him – common hobby or projects. You laugh and joke together. Simply you have a nice time together. Without expectation, pressure or judgement, instead – support, acceptation and relax (from both sides).
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# He likes when you need him aka hero instinct
It’s so cliche! But it’s true! Sure, the cult of being modern independent women was born into us – women, but we took it over the top… it’s worth to ask for help sometimes. Even if only to make him feel needed, to have fun with it, to do something for the team. Let yourself sometimes rely on your partner. After all, this will not lead to the loss of independence. Because you don’t need to be a full blood princess that cannot do anything by herself. No extreme would be good here.
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# He needs to be respected
Love and respect always go hand in hand. Being admired and respected by the one you love increases self-esteem and happiness, it strengthens the bond between you. Many times us – women have to redefine the meaning of “respect to him” as it’s often different from his definition. You have the way you want to be treated, and you inform him about it. Let him have his, and get some time to learn about it. Ask your hubby what respect means to him and how it looks like in the relationship. You can be straightforward and ask if he thinks you respect him and what could you change (you can make a date from it and exchange your ideas on how to improve expressing respect in your relation individually for both of you)
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# He knows you don't hold a grudge
When problems from the past are solved, they stay in the past and you are not going back to things from years ago – that makes him feel confident in understanding your relationship. He knows a connection with you, is exciting, future-oriented and open to new experiences, instead of living in the past.
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# He knows he is the top priority in your life
It does not mean you have to sacrifice all your life. You should be your best friend, so you know, there are things that nobody can demand from you, same you can not do it to your partner.
Simply Your husband wants to know that he is important to you, that when he needs you, you will be 100% for him. You have his back, and he has yours. This feeling gives him confidence that he is in the right place with the woman who loves – and choosing him every day.
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Focus on rebuilding beautiful love life and strong relationship with your amazing boyfriend or husband – having an amazing time at the same time. Difficult times are easier to go through with a bit of humor, quality time, loads of goodwill and change from you both.
Every healthy relationship has boundries. This is only the friendly reminder that same as you count he will fulfill your needs, he has same expectation. And because of our differences as people, needs can be similar or different. Don’t assume get the knowledge from the source – your man.